Married young, W had affair w/ coworker Pt. 3

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Emailed back and forth with W yesterday. It was pretty cold and started to become negative as we talked about who gets what. I stopped emailing and offered to call later that night since it seemed we were in disagreement on a few things. We talked for about 45 minutes. I kept things positive and talked little about myself and asked about her new job, new car, christmas, etc. We agreed to swap some furniture around in our agreement because she wanted another piece.

She raised a concern about the fact that I've stayed in touch with her family (uncle/grandparents) and that I may visit them while I'm in their area next month. I told her they had all contacted me multiple times and wouldn't take no for an answer on visiting. She rattled off a saying she heard that "when you break up with someone you break up with their family too." She is seriously thinking divorce is like a breakup? We don't have kids, but wow. She talks like she just can't wait until she is free from me and the burden of being married. Like it was not a big deal she was married at all, or that she has fallen victim to marriage. I clearly remember the last seven years and she was adamant about getting married. Sure, she had some doubts here and there about timing and the future, but she pushed things right along. It's clear that she is rewriting history in her head.

She told me she doesn't have an attorney and isn't planning on getting one. For as eager as she seems to be divorced, it seems she doesn't want to do the work to get things written up. I'm meeting with the attorney early next week.

She is coming over with some friends and a moving van tomorrow, prayers appreciated...