[BrightFuture]

Oh, Mighty, I was almost crying reading your post. Thank you so much for all compliments, I need this these days. And thank you for taking the time to post to me, especially considering what’s going on in your own sitch.

I’m doing good at work and everything, I just started to feel like the time is slipping away and I’m still at the same place I was 2 ½ years ago. Then I think more, and I know that I’m not in the same place. I’m actually in a lot better place.

I read about how you are doing it and it encourages me. I feel the same drag and difficulties, but you pull yourself through and still get out there. That's admirable, bright. It keeps others going even when it's difficult, because they see you doing it.

Wow, I never thought I would be an encouragement like this. Thank you. One thing I can say is that always felt things to the deepest and went through some really hard feelings of devastation in my life, but I always pulled through for a better life. I’m sure I will do it this time too. It is just taking a lot longer this time.

I think you are so right about H associating my son with me. Especially after my son told him 6 months after the BD “whatever you do, don’t keep my Mom in limbo”. To which H’s response was asking me if I misunderstood our sitch and was having hopes that the R could be fixed. The truth is that at BD, H’s words were like “let’s separate and then see”. 6 month later he was surprised that I interpreted it the way it was said and didn’t understand that our M was OVER.

Anyway, I think you are spot on about H and my son. This coming weekend should be interesting. Either H will do his own things and let my son and his GF do theirs, or he invites them to go out with him and do stuff he will do. Will see.

I didn’t interpret H’s text as caring. I just thought that it was interesting that he felt comfortable doing it. Normally he would try to avoid something like that, I think. But, I don’t know anymore.

He keeps posting on FB about the fun things he’s been doing. This is still so weird, I have to slap myself to make sure I’m not dreaming. I think he is trying very hard to present himself as a happy guy, living his dream. Maybe the first person he is trying to convince of this is himself… Oh, and just wait until I file for D or separation and he looses his condo ...

And speaking about OW who is younger… I thought of the movie “It’s Complicated”. I love that movie. Except, Mighty, you are a lot younger than the character in the movie. I’m sure you are as hot as you are tough.

BTW, I can totally be a hot@ss Just give me some motivation ...