Isn't part of the point of DB to show you are moving forward and to focus on yourself and to make the WAW feel loss?
Nope, it isnt. The point of Dbing is this...you move forward and focus on you. Sometimes the natural consequences of that is that she feels the loss, but, its not the reason you do it.
Dbing can save us..and sometimes it saves marriages.
I didnt say pull away, I said back away and I feel there is a difference. If you find yourself getting upset about the sitch or your interactions, its ok to take some time to figure stuff out. No one thing is going to make or break this.
I do not want you to think i dont want you to follow the DB coach's suggestions. I think that you can have contact with your w without you feeling like you are being used.
You can be friendly and upbeat and treat her like a good neightbor. Be kind and courteous.
The point of all this is that you may not have time to answer every call because you really are living your life and GALing.
You matter here, T. If you feel like you need a break, take one. Not to punish, not to have her feel the loss, etc. But because it is what you need at this time. The distinction is important.
