I'm just utterly gutted right now :(

[Frank75]

Sandi2:

I think what a lot of us newcomers can't wrap our heads around is how the WAS went so cold. You say communication can't help. Is it simply time that does, that did for you? Can you tell us more about where your turning points were when you decided you still had hope for your M?

I am just starting to realize the power of accepting this reality and all the choices I can still make. And still get huge tidal waves of the sickness and regret Frank describes.

Thank you for anything else you can offer.

This is what's killing me. Cutting off communication is part of what got me/us into this situation. I gave her as much space and time and freedom as she wanted and that seems to have just added to her misery