I'm just utterly gutted right now :(

[Frank75]

Or you could go for a long walk around the countryside if you find that sort of thing helps you clear your mind?

How awful for you to find out about the finances. I think you're right not to bring it up right now though, I think it will all come out in time. It must have been such a shock though and an additional blow. Take care of yourself.

That's about all I can do, but it's cold and 2 feet of snow on the ground right now. I did it today anyway, trudged a mile to our mailbox and back, crying like a baby the entire time.

As for the finances, I don't even know. It's causing me panic attacks just because we have no debt but we live in a house her mom willed to her. I have rights to it, due to us selling another house and moving here but i can't even begin to think about divorce lawyers and stuff like that right now as much as i should. Thinking about moving out and into an apartment is just too much. Everything we have here is ours, everything. Thinking about going through the cold motions of splitting things up and stuff like that makes me sick to my stomach.