Originally Posted By: twinmom
Lately I have been flipping out over little lies. It throws me into a tizzy when he lies. I would welcome some 2x4's on this subject.

His lies are to be nice to me but I just see it as a black/white lie and freak.

example, he gets DD iced coffee EVERY single morning. I make my coffee at home and get a DD coffee only if I am in a rush to be somewhere in the morning or if H has a free one due to reward points. Well Sunday he was going to get his coffee and he always asks if I want one, I almost always say no. I told him if he had enough points to get me one. Well he comes back with one........ and today I see the receipt from yesterday showing the points balance... he didn't have enough points, he just paid for it.

^^^ Be careful how you categorize things. This was not lying, this was a kind gesture, an act of service. I fail to see how this is a lie.

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another example.... last night he was going to DD at 10:30pm because I decided to make plans for early this morning and he wouldn't have coffee til almost noon so he went last night and put it in the fridge. He decided to take my car and I warned him I needed gas and gave him my debit card. I look at my checking account this morning and no charge for gas.....

If he told you he was going to use his own debit card and and used yours instead, that's lying. If he simply ignored your request to use your money and kindly used his own.... Come on, Twin. You're above this.


You are clearly looking, hunting, searching for a shred of deceit from him. Why? So you can say: "Ahh Haa!" Help me understand.


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
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