Aha new thread set up now! I know exactly what you mean,I've covered Mr fixits appearance in my thread and whilst I'd love w to be wanting to work on things she's not there at the moment, will she be, no idea. Right now I think you're spot on in your advice up above bd is all about getting your own mind and emotions in order, being able to resolve the relationship is a secondary part of it that definitely can't happen unless your own (my own) issues are resolved.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015