So W fired off 6 email responses before I could respond back. Everything from complaining about how much more I make than she does to how her atty is adamant that she seek spousal support, but knows I can't afford to keep the house if that's the case. I responded calmly, validated her financial struggles and asked for her suggestions. I wasn't going to get dragged into an argument and am proud that I didn't stoop to her level (as easy as that would have been).
*Venting here to avoid venting to her*- One of her biggest financial complaints has been that I 'stuck' her with her van payment. It's an argument I can't win, so why fight? She has 2 expenses- rent and car. I pay 'our' house payment, all insurance (including her van, her medical, kids), a medical surcharge for covering her through my employer, OUR loan debt, etc, yet she thinks I should also pay 1/2 of the van SHE drives?! SHE made the decision to leave the M and get her own place. Why should I have to cover her bills? *End of venting...
If she can't afford to contribute $ to shared expenses such as kids's cell phones, their extracurriculars, etc...what options do I have?? I either suck it up and keep paying, knowing she's most likely going to file for D or file D myself so we can have the courts split debt/expenses? And then I get stuck paying spousal support, which means I just shot myself in the foot.
