Hi Pink

Glad to hear from you again today. I'm not surprised you're feeling wobbly and weary today.You certainly had a big ride on the rollercoaster there my friend! And now you have stepped off, there is only forwards. It's good that you have been able to have a cry too. I met a lovely lady at my infidelity support group. Her H had cheated for years (Don Juan type - many OWs) and she had never been able to cry about it. She said to me - I envy you crying.

What is all that about - your H's message about the pillows and coats?? Probably, he tried to contact you to talk about 'us' - and you didn't respond. So, he has moved onto 'safer' ground with practical things relating to the boys.

If he asks to speak and you're not ready, you can always tell him that - and tell him you'll let him know when you do feel ready. For H and I it was actually a couple of weeks before we spoke properly about everything. And then in was me pushing - not him!

Anyway, even amidst this crisis and all the pain, you are doing really well, and starting to make sense of everything - moving it forward. That's incredibly hard - so I just want to say 'good for you.'

Keep on posting Pink.....you know we're all here for you xx


T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus