Claire's dozen (#12)

[claire7]

Thinking of Ss today: H texts me just as I'm heading into a meeting to ask where my D's back-up lovey is. He left hers at his place this morning. (Does he know that she refuses to use the back up lovey and can tell the difference immediately? ?)

I texted: not sure. Sorry.

Not my problem to fix. Didn't tell him what to do.

He named some next steps. I didn't respond. He has to live with his reality (though I have to live with a distraught child tonight... any ideas about that??)

[SunnyB]

Sorry, mommy. I really never went through that with any of mine if I did I've blocked it out. Good luck tonight. Maybe she'll be so tired and so happy to see mom that it will be ok.

[T384]

Claire -

I just wanted to stop by and say hi

I follow your theead I just never seem to have good advice for anyone since I can't even take care of my own sitch

Maybe she can trade her lovey for snuggles with mom instead you could try to turn it into something fun

[claire7]

He dropped off her lovey right before bedtime. Oddly, a moment before he came, D says, "I'm sad, mama." why? "I miss dada."
oh, I know, my love. (Hugs)

(Claire mutters under breath: H is such a fool)

[Ss06]

Impressed you let him figure it out... And even better that he found it in time for bedtime.

[claire7]

Yep. I know he wasn't thrilled with having to come over after work. That's the way the divorced cookie crumbles! I had on my PMA.

I could send a "you're a great dad" note (celebrate the 1% positives??) Hmmm. That would be nice of me, I guess.

[SunnyB]

Claire, sometimes I send my H "good dad" texts when he deserves them. I can't say it makes any difference to the M, he's not exactly begging on the doorstep, but I do think it makes a difference to his parenting. So, yes, I vote positive reinforcement

[claire7]

You guys. I'm tired of doing this alone. I'm tired of not getting enough big warm hugs. Of going to bed alone and waking up alone. Of sharing a car and a mortgage and bank accounts but not love and not a life with the man I married.

Feeling funky right now I guess. Tomorrow is another day.

[Karma12]

I hear you. I miss hugs too. Try booking a massage, pedi, mani? You need to pamper yourself. (())

[gan]

I'm feeling it today, too, Claire.

These ones won't feel as good but here goes....((((((Claire))))))