I would also love my marriage to work. It did for many years. The last 3 we have just become distant. Fault on both sides. I see the same stuff happening with some of my friends and have seen it happen to my best friend in the past. We used to go around to their house for tea occasionally. We were all loved up and they didn't even sit next to each other. They had 2 kids and had just grown apart as neither putting real effort into it. We used to come away saying "doesn't look good" thinking we would never end up like that. Well a few years after his wife also had an affair plus other issues. They split and divorced. She then married the guy she was having an affair with. My mate has since gone onto be with someone else and have another child. I was at a do with them not long ago and his ex wife (a bit drunk) said she still loves him and prays for the day they can all be together.!! my mate said to me he isn't really in love with his new GF either. What a mess. They were too hasty in getting divorced and neither one of them had the tools to try and piece their marriage. DB'ing. They should have just separated and gone there own way and see how things worked out. Moved on but not rule out any chance. Maybe they would be back together if they had. As hard as it is I will be moving on. My wife is not the person I knew as I am not to her. If we're meant to reconnect then we will. I certainly wont be making any rash decisions to get divorced.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
