Thanks BrightFurture, A very sad but interesting story and I can understand why you are telling it to me. It does give me an insight into what my H's OW is thinking, she is being told many lies but she has chosen to believe everything my H is telling her. I found out about my H's A, he did not tell me and never would have but he told the OW that he had told me himself, she validated him telling him what a 'brave' thing he did - I cannot understand how he accepted her validation knowing it was based on a lie.
However, your GF was very young and the mother of a young child when she met her married man, and while this does not excuse her, it is a little easier to understand how she could be manipulated by an older man. My H's OW is 42, divorced, no children, independant, educated, cultured - what is wrong with her? Why does she hang around, why does she want a relationship with a married man who doesn't seem to want to leave his wife - why has she wasted the last two years on him? Why is she so blind to his lies? She would be disgusted by his interest in porn and online dating, part of me wants to tell her about it but the truth is I don't care about her, she is nothing to me.
The way my H is behaving, I believe that this is all new to him, that while he traveled for work in the past, he was faithful to me, he maintained his honour and integrity, I think I would have known......but maybe not..........
Looking forward to the rest of the story and by the way I love the way you write, it is clear and easy to understand,you can tell a story very well!
Thank you so much for the taking the time to do this, I really appreciate it!!
Take care, Sonas (this is an Irish word (Gaelic) and it means 'happy'.........
