Jim0987 #10 - getting ready for mk8

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Morning Jim

sorry first opportunity Ive had to check in this morning. So sorry for the way you felt yesterday, you know I know how that feels, in my case once when w left and fil swept around behind her loading up boxes and again splitting everything up. I know.

Dont think you want a hug from me but my hand is on your shoulder mate. It does get better, it does, spend time with your children, enjoy them attempt to refocus on them and start to make your home about you and them it will take time but it will happen.

I liked your letter I'm not sure if you should give it to her though, you know I've had many a STFU from the forums on emailing and texting too much. I wrote a similar letter and sent it in the first few weeks but my w didnt take anything from it other than a launching off point to tell me what else she thought couldnt work. I invite others thoughts on it but it was well crafted and honest.

Im sorry you hurt today, you will hurt less tomorrow and onward, try to think about what you will do for you and the kids now and going forward I know its nearly impossible but focussing on something else will help keep you from becoming too introspective (based on my experience).

Again, it will get better.

Oh and the wedding stuff, get some vacuum or dust proof boxes, pack it all carefully and put it in the loft or storage or somewhere it will be 100% safe but not always being bumped into. My advice is keep some photos of the family but try not to have huge reminders everywhere, take new photos with the kids and get pictures made so you know you are not alone and have them regardless of what happens with your w.