My IC then very firmly said... "HP, your M is over."
HP,
So, guess what....my MC said the exact same thing to me today......I had the same reaction, it actually helps.
Like I said, I think this is part of the grief process that they are working us through; getting through that winding road to acceptance.
I don't intend to explain it away, as we all talk about our M being dead right now, but I see it as the MC/IC is looking at things as objectively as possible given the circumstances. They are responsible to get us 'through' loss and not to hold onto it. Here's what comforts me when its something as ultimate as saying this to me.
Our faith that we are going to be okay is all we need right now.
It could be with W, OW or someone else, it doesn't matter right now. Its a day by day thing.
Both MC and IC have banged me on the head multiple times and say "MCS, why are you so concerned with the future, when you need to be focused on today? You can try, but you can't control the future, but have faith that whatever is meant to be will happen regardless of what you do or don't do today."
Its them trying to help me release control, detach and not beat myself up or analyze every little piece of the sitch.
Last edited by MCS; 01/21/1503:58 AM.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
