Where you are...I was, less one child. I was your age. I had a H who wanted D, until one day he simply didnt. And there was no discussing it. And mine was mean too. Believe me, you dont have that market cornered.
After reconciliation and another bomb years later, I was finally able to see things differently. To see what i could have done differently. So please dont ever think because its the internet that people dont understand.
during your period of doing nothing...seriously google controlling behaviors. What you think they are and what they actually are may surprise you.
and in your reading...start with chapter 12 (in my copy) of his needs, her needs...men need admiration...
i know, sounds like some antiquated idea from the 50's when women were still subserviant....
guess what? Our grandmothers and greatgrandmothers understood this concept...something womens liberation has stolen from us.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
