Devastated Husband; Need Advice...Part 2

[TLEE86]

T2, uRworthy, thanks for the check ins and the words of encouragement.

The next week I'll be on and off here, work is keeping me excessively busy right now.

URworthy, your post really resonated with me, especially the part about his you knew H was having good intentions but somehow came off as making you feel really small. It is hard when nobody expresses that. I didn't know I was controlling of making her feel that way, especially since my W is by nature very indecisive. So it's easy for me to take charge and things get done, and when she doesn't complain, I just think it's all ok. Now I realize my actions.

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Something else you said about knowing my W best, and if it's not working try something else, I guess Idk if it's working. I've gotten my W nice to me and talkative, but idk I this is pulling her away from OM or giving her the best of both worlds. It hurts me to know that they text all day. And yet W can still call me like nothing. I know it's not a PA but EA is almost worse...you say when I'm having a rough day to pull back..and I want to. To just stop talking to her for a while to give her something to miss...but why do that if my WAW is now texting and calling me when she didn't want anything to do with me before?

She called me today and told me she might not go to her internship now, because she got a job interview at a vet office.. So she might take te job and get her own apartment soon...how can someone be so indecisive. I mean, she quit her other job, to go to this internship, now 3 days away from going, she decides she mught not go? Yet she calls me for advice? I'm getting so tired of her indecisiveness...and still wondering if talking to her is the best thing to do. Immakingmyself more unavailable, sometimes pickin up her calls, sometimes waiting longer periods before texting her back, but should I even engage her in conversation when I know there is an ongoing EA that she denies?

So frustrated...