[BrightFuture]

Mighty, thanks. I’ve always been a scientist. I don’t know how I discovered the things I discovered, but my intuition always steered me in some direction… After the BD I was not so sure about my intuition, but now I’m slowly regaining this ability.

I’ve been having some down days recently. I went shopping for the shoes and dress to wear at the party this weekend. I was looking at myself and not liking it. I put on some weight and it looks like I aged a lot in the past year. So, the things I had in mind were not looking good on me anymore. This is upsetting. I’m still going to have fun at the party though.

So, the update about the attorney visit. He told me that I don’t need to worry about my house and any money that I’ve been saving since the day of separation, which I count from the BD day. In my state, we are considered separated even though there are no legal papers filed yet. This was a big relieve. But, at the same time some other info stopped me from considering filing for D or legal separation (which in my state have the same effect in terms of dividing assets and debt.) I was hoping that by filing for legal separation I could still be a joint condo owner, so my son would have some right to it. I was told that even if I file for legal separation, the process is still the same as D. It will have to go through the courts, and even if we agree to not change anything on the condo mortgage, the court will most likely force us still divide it. H will either have to refi it and take me off the mortgage, or we will have to sell it to divide the assets.

The problem is that H most likely will not be able to refi it. First, he hasn’t made enough money last year, second, the property is in Mexico, so there are limited options for banks that can do the mortgage. He will not be able to sell it either, because it is way under water. So, my guess is if he is forced to do something about it, he will be asking me to split the house as well, even though he signed it off to me and I have the mortgage on my name only. I know this could open a can of worms… Plus, I would hate to do it to H, leave him homeless. Even though he is kind of homeless already, LOL.

I’m still processing this info to see if I can find any solution.

On another note, my son and his GF are going to the vacation home this weekend. There are going to be the off-roads races. I would normally go too, but this year they changed the date and it happens to be on the same weekend as my company party. I’m actually thinking maybe it is better this way. Maybe my son and H can connect somewhat. Will see. I will have to “interrogate” my son’s GF when they come back, because my son would normally not say much.

And, I activated my FB account and sent a couple of friends requests. This is officially my scientific (social) experiment now. I’m finally taking advice from my DB coach…