I remember coming here a month ago, feeling as you did, basically wanting guidance to the confusion and pain going on, and I wanted it right away.
Listen to Mach1, I too basically got the same advice.
Start with DB/DR.
What really helped me interpret DB & DR to my own situation was the coaching. Not trying to sell you anything just relaying my own positive experiences with it.
I found the forum a great place to vent, receive support, and get feedback on events.
I personally found it hard to hear "hang in there" or "take it day by day" when I was desperate for answers. But, in time, a course of action will form.
