So say nothing about him staying out til who knows when? Nothing about no clue where he is? Do not ask him to do family things, just be friendly and neighborly? Do not initiate any talks unless absolutely necessary. Live as a roommate?
well, yea... to an extent. Take the car for example:
From what I understand you have mostly detached financially from him. So the car is exclusively on him. If you stick your nose into it, it has the potential to be YOUR fault for anything that happens with his vehicle (and that is FOREVER... 6 months down the road, it gets repo'ed: its because YOU didn't want him to have it, breaks down 30 days after warranty is out: YOU should be happy, because you never wanted wanted him to have it anyway).
If it was me, my 180 would have been: "Wow! Nice car!" and leave it at that.
Now, it could be: "the car WOULD have made everything better, but TO3024 didn't LET me have it".
Same with family things.... invite him, but don't press. Act "AS IF" regardless of his answer to join or stay home.
Last edited by woundedfool; 01/20/1508:27 PM.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
