The "DB diet" also known as the "Grief induced weight loss" is common here. We all tend to lose weight.
But that's not to say you shouldn't get it checked out or treated. I think a visit to the doctor's is a good idea. Tell them what is going on and see what they say. Completely different approach. wait, what?
Why? You have not done ANY DB approach for more than an hour. You have to choose something and stick to it for months before you can assess how it is working. If you keep changing your mind and your approach, no wonder nothing is working.
Do you see how "uncommitted" and undisciplined that looks and how that is the "same old you"??
I feel like a doormat this morning. W is still in complete denial, not telling me anything and hiding her A from everyone else too. What is there for HER to say? She thinks she "loves OM" and she has admitted that to you. Why would she shout that out to the world while the marriage to you is still legal? And frankly Complex, her telling the world is worse for YOU.
DO you get that? The more she tells the world, then the more committed to OM she is. Do NOT Push her into solidifying their relationship or publicizing it.
That's a bad idea and does NOT HELP YOU. .
I am now 100% sure W wants to make the A "legit" and "real love" first and get the confirmation from OM so everyone (family, friends, me) will "understand" and then time will heal it. That is her approach, which is ...........well we all know. I will ask Denise what she thinks.
Please do.
I am strong still but that I am the doormat here sinks in more and more. I want to do this right, the loving way. And I don't want to do anything stupid. then stop vacillating, (changing your mind and your approach) and stick to an approach for some real TIME.
Timing doesn't seem right now. She will think I am extremely selfish and it might kill the A but drive me far far away and also jeopardize my safe citizenship, although I am almost certain she wouldn't do this to me, and if she would, that is all I need to know. I will get multiple opinions on this before I do ANYTHING. So can I please have your guys' too?
What are you asking, specifically?
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