Completely different approach. I feel like a doormat this morning. W is still in complete denial, not telling me anything and hiding her A from everyone else too.
I am now 100% sure W wants to make the A "legit" and "real love" first and get the confirmation from OM so everyone (family, friends, me) will "understand" and then time will heal it. That is her approach, which is ...........well we all know.
I will ask Denise what she thinks.
I am strong still but that I am the doormat here sinks in more and more. I want to do this right, the loving way. And I don't want to do anything stupid. Timing doesn't seem right now. She will think I am extremely selfish and it might kill the A but drive me far far away and also jeopardize my safe citizenship, although I am almost certain she wouldn't do this to me, and if she would, that is all I need to know. I will get multiple opinions on this before I do ANYTHING.
So can I please have your guys' too?
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Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15
