Last night me saying what i said calmly and then leaving it be is a big change for me.
^^^^ this will need to be consistent, imo, for him to believe it. Maybe make a concerted effort over the next few weeks and see if anything changes with him? ... you know... test and re-evaluate.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
