My reaction albeit needs improvement but is different from before BD
I would have blown up on him and an argument would have started. When he walked away from me I would have followed him and insisted we talked instead of just pushing it under the rug
Yes I have things to work on
Last night me saying what i said calmly and then leaving it be is a big change for me. He came home said goodnight, I left it be. Was friendly said goodnight reciprocated ILY when he told me goodnight and went to bed.
This morning he kissed me goodbye I told him to have a good day.
I'm not excusing my behavior. I just don't see me being able to really shove it under the rug anymore than that. I feel if I don't nip it now he will continue to do this and i can't live in a M this way. I feel my needs are always on the back burner and I keep molding the way he wants things so he doesn't get upset. If I reacted like I really wanted everyday he probably wouldn't be in the house.