And nobody has ever gone through this, not like he is. And the ONE person that he was supposed to be able to confide in, doesn't really "get" him anymore. HIS wants and needs aren't the number one priority anymore. All he hears is nag, nag, nag. He tries to talk with you, and rather than validate, and try to understand, you remind him of the "wrong" that he has done that day, or the bill that he has to pay. And after time, that culminates within a Man....
Now, in no way am I saying that this is him, or you....
What I am saying is, that those thoughts ^^^ , have at one time or another, gone through any Man's head. And if they say that they haven't, then they are lying about it.....
TO....stop trying to drive a square peg into a round hole.....
You want answers that he doesn't have right now, and you can either live with that, or you can't. ..
You either try to understand him, or you don't...
T, I think this is an excellent post by Mach. What about stepping back for awhile and not talking about any of these stressful topics. Instead just listen and validate what he does say. You don't have to agree with his choices, but if you can show him some form of acceptance and compassion, you might be surprised by his reaction.
Me: 30 H: 35 M: 5 years S2 Signs of MLC started Feb 2014 BD - PA July 2014 Piecing/reconciling late July 2014
