Thank you Maybell, heart, and anyone else I missed, it is not intentional by any means
Mach- pretty much your last paragraph describes H to a T. That's exactly how he feels, never good enough, etc. I don't want to be that nag either. I want to be fun and have fun and I try to. Then he is always miserable and it in turn really makes my attitude annoyed with him because he's so damn miserable and unhappy. I struggle finding a balance because at some point we have to be responsible and discuss logistics. I feel i can't vring up things that upset him because of his reaction and how it will make him upset and pull away more. But things (responsibilities, bills, kids, logistics) have to be discussed at times and I feel he goes 0-60 in shutting me out when he doesn't want to hear it.
Any suggestions? I am open to it. As much as I don't want to be a doormat I do have to deal with H and me making him act this way is not good for me either. I don't want to deal with it when he acts that way just as much as he doesn't
Wounded- I thought you gave up on me lol
35k.. Not 'expensive' but to his financial situation it is expensive to rack on another expense when he already 'has.' to go to ex boss to make extra.
I really don't care too much about the car itself it's the principal that I wasn't included, he can't foot his half of the bills but can get a new car and that he would rather work at ex boss to make extra than to just not have the car and not have to work there.
Oh well, I'm working through it. We haven't talked. It seems when I'm quiet and distance myself it's easier for him to act out
My parents said he has never had any consequences. So he's like a child that acts out and continues to do it because Theres no consequence.
H just continues to do things and I don't do anything about it but talk. So I'm done talking and done reacting. I really don't know what my best course of action is.
He has to snap out of it on his own and I wish I could help facilitate that.
Wounded - I have no clue what my 180 response would have been. If things were good between us and I had been given a clue from him he was contemplating a vehicle and he had been being an active H in our M. I would have congratulated him and moved forward.
Beyond what I said I don't know. I feel like I'm being walked all over and to just congratulate him and move forward I know that's not me- he will just continue to push my buttons if I allow it to an extent.
