Also been thinking about her situation when she was growing up. Her parents seperated when she was 8 or 9 (H PA) She lived with her mum. Sadly 2 years later hem mum got terminal cancer and sadly passed away when she was 11. In the time of seperation though her parents got on very well and he was around all the time. I think she sees this as a positive in splitting up. Her dad though now carries around a huge amount of guilt for what he did. He has never really met anyone else. He is in a relationship but it is not normal.
This is completly opposite to my upbring. My parenst divorced when i was 11. AT teh time i was too young to know why but my mum hated my dad. They haven't spoken sionce they split. I spent many years not in contact with my dad. That has only changed in tehlast couple of years. We now get on quite well and the truth has come out about what happened. only taken 30 years. My mum thoug is scathing about my dad. All her family are. using words like B***tard. It has taken me all this time t realise that what she has done and said about my dad is tottaly unacceptable no matter what he did for his part in teh marriage break down. I will never let that happen to us.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on