Hi To, I'm so sorry for the turn of events in your sitch - my heart goes out to you. I find it hard to read what may be happening. Part of me wonders if your H is unwell, like many of the posters here suggest. Another part of me says - Wow, that was a provocative move, given the sitch with the debt and that it related to his A. Was he almost looking for a way to bring things to a head?

What seems evident is, he's not 'in' at the moment. Apart from the controversy of the purchase given the debt, as you say, you weren't involved in the decision.

Good that you will see the C and get some support to move forwards. Keep posting x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus