Ganb8te 4 - Putting on my giraffe ears

[jim0987]

Morning ganb8te

I find thus personality type discussion really interesting.

I'm an INTJ. The N and T are really strong preference, the J is a slight preference and the I is moderate preference but this is also reflective of my social anxiety (my IC called me a socially anxious extrovert - which is a challenge in itself)

I don't know my wife's type but I would guess ISFJ.

Which I think is a source of conflict in that my cold T rationale us perceived as uncaring And the introverted judgement we both made causes issues.

Me 'why can't she understand'
W 'why doesn't he care'

In both cases our judgement is misplaced but our introversion stopped us talking about it.

So for me its about recognising how she (and I) feels not what she thinks. By connecting with the feeling I can hopefully shut Mr debate camp up long enough to make people see that I do care.

Need some giraffe ears rather than Spock or jackal ears