A MLC is a life crisis and can happen at any age. He has you walking on egg shells and your day is a good day or bad day based on his moods. You need to detach so that you are not affected so much by his behavior.
Start using the DB methods again. Act as "if" GAL have a PMA detach. Your H sounds immature and lacking insight into his own issues. He is blaming you for his unhappiness.
I understand how frustrated you feel. My H withdrew too. You keep hoping to see glimmers of the H that is nice and engaging. If he is willing to go for IC this may be more of a benefit than MC at this time. Once he works on himself then maybe he can come back to MC. Go for IC for you too. It helps to get a professional perspective. Learning not to be reactive is hard but necessary. When reacting we often say and do things that we can never take back.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
