My experience is that you have to let the other relationship play out, as painful as it is. I'm a strict stander and I like the zip-the-lips approach. I know I will know when he is actually back in his own head, and until then I assume that all kinds of darkness is consuming him on every front, that one included, trust God and just pray that hedge of thorns over and over and over. But I cry a lot, it is so so painful.
I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
