no MrBond i have not read either, ive done a search to try and download them to my laptop with no success.
as you know, having the rug pulled from under you and being hit with a sledgehammer a few times sends you to a dark place for a while and at that time there seems to be no way out, but with everyday that passes comes more of an acceptance of the situation.
i know theres no such thing as a good time but we had only just started a 2 year project building 3 dream homes for our families and im the friggin builder lol. through it all ive kept my word and completed the first 2 for the in laws and had to go there everyday knowing my own dream and my kids dream home probably wont happen and thats sort of rubbed it in a bit.
there has been no hiding place or getaway, on top of that om gf comes up to plant seeds every so often, w lives on route to the site, mother in law lives opposite me so i cant help but know when w is there (which is a lot) and om plays football on the pitch behind my house, its the A that is the problem at the moment, if there wasnt one we could be working on the real issues
so thats why its been hard not to focus on the A, its in my face constantly, but im realising slowly that its not in my hands and theres not a great deal i can do about it.
its not the end of the world like i thought at the start, im healthy, my children are healthy and ive got many other things to be thankful for, so yes i feel a hell of a lot happier than i used to.
ive taken everything w has said on board and can honestly agree with her, i can see my own faults now and can see where it leads. i know in my own head that ive changed in certain ways and would be a better partner because of them, that makes me happier too.
maybe on their wedding day couples should be given a " how to make a marriage work " starter pack and a hand book issued every 5 years so you can see whats ahead. theres a deffo a pattern to most marriage problems, prevention is better than cure so they say :-)
