I think what I hear is that he's not done baking yet. He's dealing with a new child, his older children and figuring out what he's done to make such a mess.
And here you are, trying to figure out if you're going to talk to him or not.
That's a lot to deal with. As evidenced by the sweats, right? Been a long time since I've had that level of emotion, but I remember hating it.
It also seems to me that he is remembering how she was "there for him" and I read that he is not ready to be on his own. He noticed the lighthouse, even if it was the one that causes him pain. A ship in the storm and all that...
So what's the action? Detach. Be about business. Figure out what you want and whether or not it's attainable.
There's no timeline, except what works for you. You'll know when you have had enough. And when that time comes, you will know what action to take and will not waiver.
Job's right - you're a fixer. But as a realist, you have to see that some things you cannot fix. He'll have to fix himself, else he won't be able to be around you. He has a way to go still.
Be you. Look out for you and your kids. Deal with the rest and put it to rest. i.e. the betrayal, the baby, etc. That's what the space is for. Peace is over rated, but it's all up to you at this point. What you decide needs to be right for you. Nobody else. The rest will fall into place as it should. You need to trust that.
Cheers,
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
