Thanks for all of the advice here. Still trying to determine what to do.
So I'm a bit crippled to know what to do at this point. I have basically been working little to no communication with her. I really can't tell if it's working or not. As I've stated above she's texted me a couple times over insignificant things, but the conversation goes nowhere else. She hasn't wanted to meet up to hang out and I haven't asked directly if we can again meet to talk. Maybe I should?....
But I fear that she is just getting comfortable in this new life of hers without seeing or hearing from me and it makes me really scared. Scared that she may think this is what she really wants or what is best for her and scared that she still may want to pursue a divorce.
My heart tells me that I need to go find her, either at work or her new place and present some grand romantic gesture and attempt to sweep her off of her feet and prove my love. I just don't know if that will work at all. I know real life is not like the movies. But what if it would work? I just don't know at all....
My gut and mind and from reading here and other places say that those attempts don't really work and more so backfire than ever work. I certainly don't want to push her away anymore than I have.
But there will come a point that I need to do something. I can't just stand here on the sidelines and let her slip away, or think that I may be slipping away myself. I know she knows that I desperately work it out and have her back and to build our marriage back up. But, I honestly think her mind is not totally made up yet. What if she is just waiting for that one moment, for me to come and proclaim my love for her and to embrace and kiss her and tell her...I am back, the man you fell in love with is back and is really here and alive again and now better than ever, and I promise with everything I am that will never happen again.
IDK what to do guys...I feel like even though I am working on myself a lot and feel really good about my own individual life, personally, I am just sitting on my hands and wasting time by not pursing her. And I just letting my fear and emotions get the best of me? I would be much more patient and non-erratic if there wasn't the previous threat of divorce. I don't want it to seem like my passion for her and us to work out is lessening or dying in the slightest. That is not the case in the slightest. I can't breathe with the thought of losing her. It breaks my heart every second of the day.
It is so hard to work on this living apart, not seeing or speaking to each other. I feel like those who are not separate have so much better of a chance to work things out. I have no idea what my wife is thinking, feeling or doing everyday. I just have no idea.
Any additional advice or direction would be greatly appreciated.
