Raliced - What a great idea! It truly does illustrate how close and instrumental we are to each other, even if we can't recognize each other on the street.
Like most, this has been the hardest point in my life. Filled with uncertainty, guilt, anger, etc. However, thanks to the daily support and interactions I continue to gain new understanding of myself as a person, a better definition of who I want to be, and how what I say and do affects the people in my life.
I think as it is the hardest point, I could have gone two ways, I could rise or fall. As I did buy the DB before joining this website, I think I was headed in the right direction. However, I would never have made this amount of progress, I would have had more obstacles, and longer sustainability would be more difficult.
I am extremely grateful for the people who check in with me regularly, for the advise of the vets, for the opportunity to read what other's share, and for this thread.
Thank you to all the posters! And thank you Raliced!
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Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
And I would also add, that in addition to anyone that has come before me...
You all, the people in the fire, also inspire the vets to be better...
To many of us that have come before us, we were once right where y'all are at.
We remember the pain, and the hurt, and that is what prompts many of us to return. (Well, that , in addition to getting a text to check out a certain thread)
Keep moving forward, and be an inspiration to yourselves, everyday.
PS...IF...I offended anyone on the "thread" , then I apologize. It was not my intention to offend anyone..
I'm part way through the balance series in Headspace (meditation app for those who don't know). The preamble this morning was all about reminding ourselves of the shared experience of being human...and the sense of balance that comes from knowing we are not alone in experiencing these moments of difficulty and pain.
I truly can't imagine what it would have been like to go through this experience without you all. Just the thought brings a tear to my eye.
Once again a big THANK YOU to everyone who shares their experiences here.
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H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Wow Raliced, it's threads like this that encourages everyone (vets, newcomers, and those in between ). I've never met anyone who didn't like to hear appreciation. Thanks for providing it for us.
Those who guided me so much when I first arrived in my mess, have mostly left the board, but I have learned from many who have been a part of this community. There are some who have been here through the yrs who I would miss very much if they left (Starsky, Bond, 25yrs, Wonka, and so many more). Some feel like old friends who support, encourage, or challenge my thinking. It is great to have people like this in life. We are here to support and learn from each other. I think everyone has something to offer in his or her own unique way. We may click with some and clash with others, but if it will give us cause to stop and think about things with a broader mind, it is valuable.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
We are all here part of the higher power. Part of love and care, a continuum.
Every single one who posts in need and a desire to ease the burdens of others. From those who post and vanish to those who stay around, great love and peace. For Rallice who gave us the opportunity for gratitude.
A simple sentence, a kind word or 2x4 can change a sitch made by a vet or newbie. Above all for the quiet folk who run the board, the elves who make it all work in the background, for the instigator of all of this MWD and her counsellors. To those who succeed and those who have to start again, thank you. To my companions on the journey ((((hugs))))
Vanilla and her unknowing H thank you all.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
