WAW Won't Communicate (2) - new year, new thread

[okjpc]

I had (text message) communication with my W today after more than 2 months. I had my last session with DB coach on Friday and we talked about crafting a message to her to let her know about my new job out of state. I sent it today and really didn't expect a response, but she wrote back.

Here is the entire conversation in case anyone has feedback/critique/etc:
ME: [W name], I've taken a job w/[company] in [state] starting June 1. It's an opportunity I'm looking forward to. We have some things to discuss, e.g. 2014 taxes, etc. Is there a good time to talk?

WAW: Best to file married separate for 2014.
what else do we need to discuss?
What do we need to do for everything else?

ME:Kids' 529 plans; health and dental insurance. Did you file for divorce?

WAW: You can terminate the 529 plans. I have not filed for divorce. You can file for divorce. We can terminate the health and dental plans when we are divorced. You will need to call bank to get my name off your car loan.

ME: I can't file for divorce. It's not what I wanted.
Do you want me to put the 529 plans in your name?
I'm trying to get a loan in my name, but my credit score is messed up rt now. I'll keep working on it.

WAW: I have no money to pay for our divorce.
I don't want you to put the 529 plans in my name bc I can't pay for them. I want you to just cancel them.

ME: I don't have money right now either. But mainly my conscience and heart won't allow it - I never did and still don't want to be divorced from you.


That was 3 hours ago. I could have done better obviously. But I was totally caught off guard.

Will write more later...