One question I have, why is my wife angry and bitter? She is the one who wanted and filed for a divorce?
In most cases, the WAW has harbored resentment over the years. She may have been disappointed in how she saw you measure up as a man, or had certains expectations that were not met. For a lot of women it is when their emotional needs are not met. Perhaps her sense of security felt threatened. Maybe she grew tired of dealing with your anger toward life in general, IDK. We could guess at a lot of possibilities, but these are a few examples that are commonly found in threads like yours.
The bad news is you may not bust the divorce proceedings. You can't talk your way of the mess you've caused, and you certainly can't talk her into giving the M another shot. This marriage is dead and over. She will not hear what you have to say.
The good news is there is hope for a new relationship with her. Most of it depends upon how much you work on yourself and change into a better person. How you do it and how long it will take to change is up to you. She won't listen, but she will watch. She won't trust your changes at first, and it may make her angry that it took her leaving the M before you changed. However, if you will move forward with your life, and learn to be happy again, there is a chance that she will find her way back to you. These things take a lot of time.
Are you willing to make changes for the better, even if you knew she would not return to try a new relationship with you?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
