Mind reading right now, but he's only seen W and I after BD and frankly, there is so little that we have in common right now nor any type of semblance of the ability to communicate. I think the timeframe was him seeing that this isn't a repair for our marriage, but a total rebuild.
Now, like I said, he's only seen wife as she is today and not how she was before. that was the purpose of my comment about how she would need to make some drastic changes.
So, all things considered over the last year, I've known my wife for quite some time and would say I know her personality pretty well. The way she's acting right now would be exactly how I could see it in a situation like this. The 'victim' role was a little odd, and has thrown me for a loop, but that seems to be a WAS thing. For both of us, once we have our minds made up, we dedicate everything we possibly can to make it happen. We've always been polarized in the same direction and that's why we had achieved so much. Now that we're in opposite directions, it's like a stand-off.
So, Mozza, like you. I guess it's time to detach and drop the rope. I'm still concerned about communication about the kids, but if I'm detached I'll be able to see the path much more clearly there.
I've said it before, I have no concerns about my own future with or w/o my wife. I've been thinking about my fears in all of this and it truly is only being with my kids 50% of the time. I think that's why I can't contain my emotions when things with them happen.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
