It's not the message. It's that you pretty much aired out all of your dirty laundry to friends and family who didn't know what was going on. Regardless of what you said, they will be asking you what happened and if you don't tell them, they will assume that your W cheated on you or something else bad and see her in a negative light.
Perhaps you're right and I shouldn't have posted it. But nobody has asked me what happened, instead just told me that they are there if I needed to talk. I feel like it was either update as I did and clarify it on my own, or wait for her to do it and then get flooded with questions when she eventually does.
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Do you think she would really want to go back to you when all of your friends and family believe she's bad? That's how she's going to feel.
This part I understand. Certainly I don't want to make it harder for her to come back should she choose to (which is why, at your advice, I deleted the post) - but at the same time, I don't want to continue to live in this fantasy world believing that she might come back and keeping everything the same in the hopes that she does. This update was for me and for my life - which fell in line with what I understood DB to be.
Me 23, Her 21 1S 2 M <1yr, T 7 WAW: She moved out 11/15/2014 She started D process 1/29/15
