This was a step in the right direction. Things aren't going to completely shift, over the course of one weekend. You will need to continue working on yourself, and remain consistent in your changes. The changes have to be genuine.
You are right, you can't change your H. You can affect change, if he wants to change.
Even though you didn't have that miracle moment, this weekend was a positive.
The couple that lead our program, attended it twice before they were able to work things out. They were nowhere near piecing when they attended the first time. Their situation was volatile That was in '88, and they are still together. They have been an inspiration for my W and I. Perhaps some of the presenters of your weekend were similar.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa