After texting OW obsessively for just a month (after getting to know her over a few months at the grocery store she worked at), my H started professing his undying love to her. He texted her ALL DAY, EVERY DAY - mostly consisting of: "I love you," "I love you so much," "OMG, you're awesome, and I love you so much" - and he even eventually left our M of 10 years and our children to pursue his "unquenchable" love and desire for OW.
From where I sat, they appeared madly in love. And my M appeared finally doomed.
Fast-forward two months: H was back home, completely humiliated. In all our many conversations since he's been home, he talks of how he was never in love with her. He was in love with *how she made him feel about himself.*
DO NOT believe what your eyes see or what your ears hear while your W is in an A.
Believe, instead, what Toots and zew are saying. They're spot on.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
