You're right LITB- I am contributing to my own frustration. In the past it was because I was afraid that if I approached any of those 'difficult' topics (kids schedule, bills, etc) with W, it would push her one step closer to D. However, as part of feeling more detached these past several weeks, I realized exactly what you posted above. I can't be afraid to upset her.
With that being said, I've purposely avoided bringing these topics up until after tomorrow- my birthday. Maybe that reeks of fear or wanting a reaction, but my reasoning is that tomorrow gives her a reason to reach out to me after almost a month of very little communication. I'd say I have no expectations, but I suppose the fact that I'm writing this means I somewhat do.
So later this week I do plan on addressing the schedule and some joint bills I've been paying. In fact, I drafted the email last week. It won't go over well because she barely has enough money to live as it is, but that's a result of her decision, not mine.
On a side note- I went out with some friends the other night. W was supposed to pick up the kids from the house, but they told her they just wanted to stay home. I then received an email from W basically asking if I was planning on staying at the house. I was vague in my reply- just that I didn't know what time I'd get home, but I could tell she was trying to prolong the conversation by then bringing up the fact that we've been exchanging kids at a nearby parking lot instead of at her condo (which I've yet to visit). I validated and agreed to drop them off at her place going forward if she'd provide me the address. Maybe my agreeing took her off guard because she's yet to reply : )
