I thought everything was okay.....(Part 3)

[MCS]

Yeah, there really wasn't anything too interesting to report back on it. He just took some blocks that had various feelings and had us all talk about the ones we picked. The whole exercise was a little too advanced for the ages of our kids. Couple this with Nerf Guns and My Little Ponies all over the place and you see what we had...

I tried to throw out when they were talking about missing us that maybe they could facetime the other parent, but the kids got distracted before I finished and I didn't want to push.

So, I would say that I was a lot more in tune with how W and I interacted with the kids. I'm not sure if it was this way prior to BD and I just didn't realize it, but it was weird. Almost like looking at parenting styles from a third person. I could see our styles were definitely different.

I saw that I took the role of the disciplinarian, even as they were interacting with W. That was our typical role in our M.

I've caught myself a couple times doing this even before now with kid swaps. Basically, W was asking them something and they were ignoring her. After a few times of her asking them, I said "S5, mom is talking to you and asked you to put that down." I'm guessing that is not a good thing to be doing in our current situation. Just like everything else, those are her issues to solve.

I do think it had an impact on the kids, not sure good or bad. We swapped the kids there and on the way home, both just sat in the car looking out their windows which is not normal. At one point, I asked them what they were thinking about and S5 said "You and Mom together"