Hey S. First of all, you are still so hard on yourself, sweetie.
Here's the thing of all this. It's not one size fits all. You do what is right for you.
As far as GAL, that's an important one, but one I struggled with for some time.
For alot of reasons. One being that I like to be alone...to regroup, to refocus. I remember thinking, oh boy, they are going to get on me for that. LOL!
But I also found what was good for me. I took some classes through the parks department so they were really inexpensive.
I planned trips I always wanted to take. I didnt take most of them, but planning them was fun.
Think of something you always wanted to learn, then find a way to learn it.
Sometimes you have to push yourself to GAL and it winds up being a lot of fun. Sometimes it's ok to do absolutely nothing for the weekend.
You have to try to find a balance. But I do think it's really important for you to be among people doing something you enjoy.
As far as seeing your h when he has her, here's what I think.
Your motive to see them or not has to be looked at. I get that you miss her, but, Im thinking its more than that.
You are separated. This is what happens when you are. He has to live his choices.
I think as you fill your life up some more, you will be able to handle not seeing her better.
She is with her daddy. Let them form whatever relationship they will. Your job is to cause no harm to it.
So, I would say that you should not accept every invitation to meet up with them.
Hopefully, soon it will be because you are really busy GAL.
For now, do it because it really is best for you and for her.
If he asks, you could just say, sorry, I have plans, enjoy your time with D. You dont have to say it every time, but, I would say it a few times. It helps you and it helps her. Then when you are together, its an ooportunity to show a new SS. Be upbeat, positive.
It is important to live your reality, S. He needs to live it, too.
