Busting this Divorce - 90 Days NC #6

[HPoirot]

Hi Hp,

You've had a lot going on! I was busy and am just catching up.

I think you will find if you can be business friendly with your W. It feels better all around. Your son will be the biggest winner because all he wants to see is the two people he loves most in this world get alone.

I shared this yesterday on my FB page

I forgive people but that doesn't mean I accept their behavior or trust them.
I forgive them for me, so I can LET GO and MOVE on with my life.

This is from Lessons learned in Life.

I agree with the other posters. Discontinue communication when it crosses boundaries into disrespectful behavior. Continue to communicate with your wife. Don't ignore her. You will be connected by your son and future Grandchildren. Who knows what the future holds. Be the shining light of example for your son.

Hello Karma. You are right and I've spent the weekend thinking about forgiveness... how I can forgive my W and move on. Not just for S12 but for my own wellbeing. I feel more relaxed about my connection to my W right now. We have years raising S12 to go... no use making my life more difficult b/c of how I feel about her actions. So yes I'll start by doing better as you say... just keep engaging her and find ways I can start to accept her again.

HP - How long are you willing to wait?

Hello Jan. I have finally learned to be completely focused on detaching rather than waiting. I have a vision for my life this year and I'm going for it. Getting there will make me very happy and make live better for my son. I'm not going to try to pursue any relationship in that time. I feel it's very important for me to learn how to live alone.

Funny, when all this started my W was saying we should take some time apart to find out who we are alone and if we want to be married. She was lying as she had no intention to be alone and no desire to be married... but she was right. This is my best opportunity to find a life I love so onward.