Wow. Just WOW! Zelda, you are giving me a lot to think about. (There I am again, with the isTj).
This friend of yours who "facilitated" the meetup, did you approach them for info or did they contact you? I could really use an external view on what is going on, but it would require asking a mutual friend and I'm not sure how to do that in a way that won't cause more problems.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014