Card29 X - Let It Be

[Card29]

I just finished a fantastic weekend visiting my young (17 yr old) cousin in VA. Went snowboarding with her. VA is so beautiful, maybe the most beautiful place I've ever been. I've been there before but it just really sank in this time, and that's without any leaves on the trees! It has big mountains, but they are kind of spaced out. So the roads are still kind of straight, and you always have panoramic views, not just mountains on all sides of you (although I like that, too). Anyway, it was an excellent weekend, perfect weather, etc. GAL: 100%. Detach: 100%.

WAW is now initiating almost all of our convos and texts. And it's not like it's my plan for that to happen, because I still don't know if I want to work on it with her (IF she did with me). Who knows if she's actually reconsidering, but it does show that pulling back does draw them in. Almost immediately after I did, if there has been any pursuit, it's from her to me. Of course, the timing of my detach happened simultaneously with her OM dumping her.

Friday night, she was supposed to pick up D2 from my mom's house (I was already on the road). Predictably, WAW called to cancel/delay until Saturday. I presumed it was so she could drink, take meds and sleep in. I was not happy about it, but I wanted to make sure it wasn't for a legit reason. Here was the brief convo:

Me: Why?
WAW: Why does it matter? That was the schedule. I'm not ditching her for a date, if that's what you're asking
Me: You agreed on a new schedule. I've already left town. Contact my mom
WAW: Fine

Maybe I shouldn't have asked "why" (no, I wasn't wondering if she had a date). But I was proud of the second response. Before I would have been MNG and caved immediately, even would have called my mom for her and maybe even made up an excuse. I just stated a couple of facts and let her deal with it. And I didn't respond to the "fine" when I would have chased after that in the past.

A little while later, she apologized and explained that she was having a "very emotional day" and she didn't want D2 to see her crying again. I validated then let it go. The rest of the weekend she texted me pics of D2 and I shared a really funny story from my trip