Another light went on:
I actually critized W so much for not "trying" hard enough to save M and improve R. It was a legit accusation regarding not getting outside help as a last resort or to improve our communication and get a third person involved. But she actually really tried when I look back. She involved me in all family activities, we tried to "date", spend a lot of time together.
...BUT I didn't change at all. I just tried to convince her to convert to my opinion, my view of the whole story and M. Obviously that didn't work and she felt misunderstood and I just showed so much pain that I was going through.
I was NOT ready.

But like Mozza said. Things get worse before they get better. And I am....WAS a person who needs to hit rock bottom or feel like it's all too late to realize and do a 180.
it's ne we too late to do one tho!

Last edited by Complex; 01/19/15 04:55 AM.

Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15