Wow Karma - you are very strong and patient. Sounds like you love this man but are questioning whether is will ever be possible to have a relationship. MLC takes a really long time. Sometimes the damage is too great or the LBS has simply moved on. There are stories of reconciliation and I cling to those. Many times though people who are having success are no longer posting. Just something to remember when it all seems hopeless.
When you talked about H checking out of everything I could really relate. OW came later but the whole disengagement from everything started first.
The fact that H is really opening to you about things is a positive. agree that cake eating is not an option. There were some posts on boundaries. Maybe you can search them? They really helped me determine some limits.
You sound very wise and practical. You will know when you are ready to truly move on. Unfortunate that SD is having to deal with this too. Happy that you can act as a counterbalance to his absences.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
