I thought I'd give it a go since I haven't had much luck finding an IC. The first one (who I saw within a week of BD) was a little too tough love about the whole thing. It was basically "He's gone, he's made his decsion, he's not coming back and you need to accept it." In subsequent sessions she really pushed how happy kids could be in a divorce. I accept that you can make the best of the circumstances for the kids, I really do, but I simply couldn't subscribe to the notion that it wouldn't be a huge challenge and the that the odds of there being issues didn't just increase.
The second one just whipped out his prescription pad and wanted to put me on anti-depressants despite the fact that I don't feel depressed and am not showing any signs of depression other than some sleep issues (that are easily treated without hardcore meds)
That's been a big part of my hesitation in going back to IC. The first MC we had just talked about personality types and helped us (kind of) identify our types and then encouraged us to read more about them. It kind of reinforced everything taht was wrong rather than encouraging us to grow. When I called her in a panic asking her if I was wasting my time trying to save the marriage, she said "I feel sorry for you," two or three times. The second one... well, everybody who was here in September got to hear all about that. Twice bitten, third time shy? But I've consistently heard good things about DivorceCare.
I told several people I wanted to save my marriage and got way more than the two heads stare, but so what? It's my life.
After Harry Potter is Spyderwick Chronicles, then Narnia, then a couple of stand alone books, then Artemis Fowl, possibly Percy Jackson, and hopefully some classics. By the time I'm finished reading S7 will be 13 and dying to get away from me.. (I already read all of these except Spyderwick to D11; she got The Mysterious Benedict Society, which is WAY too difficult to read aloud... if you want more children's recommendations let me know!)
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
(I already read all of these except Spyderwick to D11; she got The Mysterious Benedict Society, which is WAY too difficult to read aloud... if you want more children's recommendations let me know!)
