Do I tell him all I know?

[RosaLinda]

Hi Sonas, thanks for posting on my thread. It's nice to meet you but really I am so so sorry that you find yourself here.

To read someone's posts, first click on their name, and then on "view posts" in that little box that comes up. A list of all of their posts will pop up in reverse chronological order.

I just read your thread, and ugh, what a horrible story. Your H sounds a lot like my ex, charming a bunch of foreign women with a pack of lies. Mine became almost obsessed with Russia and Russian women for some reason. He never told his potential OW that we were "amicably separated" like yours did, mine tried to get sympathy by telling them that I have been cheating on him our entire married life, but he stayed with me for the sake of our sons (whom he neglected to mention are 29 and 40 years old ). Your H sounds really depressed to me, and does seem to have a lot of the "symptoms" of mid life crisis.

You left off on your thread last July, saying your H was coming home for a visit in a couple of weeks. What happened then, how did it go?

And Sonas, please do not spare a speck of sympathy for his current OW. An honorable truly "nice woman" would NOT allow herself to be manipulated into an affair with a man she knows is married. I suspect from your spelling that you live in England or Canada. I'm not sure about your H's OW, but my H has had many Russian OW, mostly EAs, and every one of them was desperate to leave Russia and come live in another country. I wonder if that is "your" OW's motivation?